Learning In Progress.

Yesterday I saw this picture in my Insta and it really struck me.

 

Remember the day when I was quite upset with someone whom I accidentally made him angry? Yeah that same guy was being complained by someone to another person but she just took it lightly, and didn't say anything like YA LOR HOW TO DO THINGS IN THAT WAY BLAH BLAH. Instead she just said, he's like that one.

He, is like that one. 

What does it mean? It just simply means that, as a friend, because she knows him well, she understands his way when he's involved in serious stuff. Yes, we don't like the way he handles stuff, but, he's like that one.

Like, me, the dumb dumb hahaha. Without common sense. People who don't know me probably freak out with the things I do or say.

But my friends? Aiya, she's like that one la. Dumb dumb ma. And continue doing their stuff as if what I just did or said is the most natural thing for me to do. Not that surprising to them anyways. 

Because they understand, that's why I can be myself when I'm around them. I don't need to fake my personality, pretend to laugh off whatever silly things I did but deep inside my heart I scolded myself for embarrassing myself.

Nope, no such thing at all.

We all have strengths and weaknesses. But as true friends, we don't only see the strengths of our friends. We see their weaknesses too. And what happened when we see their weaknesses? We accept them as who they are. 

We don't stop talking to them just because of one weakness that we dislike. We're not in primary school where children just unfriend each other and friend back each other within 5 minutes. 

When someone does something wrong, we don't forget all the things that they did right. 

Same goes to a relationship.

Especially those who doesn't know each other very well. Like, I know he's confident, I know he's good in this and that, I know he's patient and kind. But what happens when I know his weaknesses? Maybe something that I dislike a lot. Do I stop liking him?

What happens when you only noticed certain bad habits when you marry a man? Will you divorce him? No. When a light bulb is spoiled, you fix the bulb, not move to another house. I read this in FB and it constantly reminds me that in whatever relationship I'm having, whether it's friendship or family, fix the problems that we have and not stop talking to each other.

I guess it's a good training for me as well so that I'll not say let's break up each time I argue with my future bf. Hahahaha.

 

With love, we accept and respect each other. But we often forgot that, we ourselves ain't perfect. We can't just expect people to forgive us but we ourselves do not forgive others. 

To Nek,

When I read that few sentences I felt like crying haha don't ask me why. I know that he might not be the one for me but.. if he's really not the one, I won't have regrets liking him because.. I don't know, I just felt something different and he's really someone that I would like to like.

I'm not that type of girl who sits and talks in a very ladylike manner, in fact I shoot at people a lot. I felt guilty a bit when I shot him the first time but as I shot him the third time, I think he already got used to it so I practically can be myself when I'm communicating with him. Of course, I don't want to NOT be myself if I really want to be with somebody. What if he can't accept the way I am?

I'll just walk away then. No regrets.

Now I'm just treating him as a friend, don't really care that much on virtual communication. What's the most important communication is face-to-face communication. I'm no longer feeling upset over short or formal conversations because I know that we'll have chances to talk face to face.

I know you always say I love you to me and all that and I hardly respond back but you know how much I love you as a friend and also a family member of mine.

Just want to tell you that.. I love you too! :')


Our loving heavenly Father who washed away our sins, will also wipe away our tears.