Thoughts of the Day.

The following websites are something that give me good thoughts on relationships. Click on the respective titles to read the articles!
 
爱情保温时间表
Ooops, it's in Chinese. Hahahaha.

Okay it's about maintaining a relationship. There are two ways:

1.) Allocate a time for communication. Let's say both of you are working. So when you finished work, both of you will be tired and just want to get some sleep. Don't. Allocate some time for each other and be frank. Topics such as how's our relationship progressing and the details of what made me upset should be voiced out. Be frank, and don't be afraid to hurt the other party because at least what is spoken is from the inner heart.

2.) Okay this one I don't really know how to translate but it's something like doing simple things such as saying I love you sincerely, looking at his/her eyes for a minute etc.

TAKE NOTE TAKE NOTE.

Our Love Story/How We Met/Married at 22
Okay, this is one of the magical relationships where first loves married with each other. At the age of 22.

Wah, marry so young ah! Many of us will say. But well, it's worth to read the whole post.

I realised that one of the reasons why my relationship failed is because one, I'm unsure of whether our relationship is enough to bring us to marriage and two, when both of us would like to end it with marriage, we didn't really put effort on maintaining the relationship in ways that married couples do.

You know people always say, once you get married, NEVER EVER RAISE THE IDEA OF DIVORCING, NEVER EVER EVEN THOUGHT OF IT. Any problems occur, solve it with your partner. Running away from it or worse, avoiding it won't do any good.

And yeah, we didn't really do that to maintain the relationship. And it lead to me thinking it will be worse if we get married because even when we're just dating, it's already that bad.

But God always works in a mischievous way. Who you end up with is always someone that you don't expected. And I'm glad that God is in the center of this couple's relationship and I know that it's one of the reasons why it works. 

I really agreed that it's not very healthy to be in a relationship for too long because no matter what, you need to move on, and it's either by getting married (Oh c'mon after 6 to 10 years of dating, still not ready to be with each other for the rest of your lives mea?! Just sign the contract and move in only ma! Ha-ha-ha-ha-ha. :P ) or, by breaking up. Probably that's the reason why a lot of couples broke up with their partners of 7-or-8-or-9-or-15-or-20 years and marry someone whom they only know for half year.

God bless this couple! I've wanted a relationship that has God in the center and now that mine ended, I know firmly what kind of guy, I mean man whom I really need.


愛情上，男人遠遠比女人現實！
A bit too long for me to translate but if you know how to read Chinese, it's worth a read!


"Because He loves me," says the Lord. "I will rescue Him; I will protect Him, for He acknowledges My name.: - Psalms 91:14 -