Let me tell you a story:
Last few weeks, my Mum told me that one of our neighbours have two (2) wives and one of his wives live in the unit that is nearby mine, and another wive (don't ask me who is big wife who is small wife) lives in another house in somewhere on earth. The funny thing is: He told my Mum that it was a secret and don't tell anybody else ah.
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Hello Pak Cik, lu ada dua isteri bagi tau I punya mak tapi lu punya dua isteri betul2 tak tau ke.
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I understand that it's legal to have more than 1 wives for their religion but nowadays I think actually the women strongly object to it already. That's why he needs to secretly marry another wife. Not sure he got other wives in other countries or not because he said that he just came back from overseas.
The question here is:
YOU GUYS NEED SO MANY WIVES FOR WHAT!!!!
It's either you go flirt around when you're single and never get married, OR, you focus on one lady and get married with her.
On the 1st of April, Star 2 reported that Muslim women face unequal rights when seeking a divorce.
“The lesser rights result in some cases extending more than eight years, either because of a husband’s refusal to pronounce talak (a husband’s unilateral right to divorce) or because of a Syariah judge’s reluctance to proceed with a divorce application through other means such as fasakh (a wife’s right to seek divorce) or taklik (annulment) when a husband is purposely absent in court,” says Aliah. Under Islamic Family Law, a husband has the exclusive power to divorce his wife by way of talaq: just by saying “I divorce/talaq you”.
They say that marriage is a gamble. It's true in a way. Some people change after they are married. Some people who are expected to change after married didn't change. You won't really know what does the future hold on to.
And there are the discussion on how married couples should behave. If you're a married man, and your female friend wants to meet you, what's the appropriate thing to do? Same goes to a married woman.
Our generation ain't like our parents/grandparents' generation. For them, after they are married, most of them keep themselves with their family and work, nothing more. Ours? Before get married, update FB status. After married, update FB status. Take selfie with husband and child and upload to Instagram. Snapchat your child taking baby steps. Tweet bad words about your husband when you're angry with him.
Sometimes I wonder, do we really need this? All this socializing thingy? Do we really need to report to the whole world how is our lives? Because of the technology, it becomes easier to meet up with old friends and it's very normal to keep in touch with friends of the opposite gender. No such thing as no more girl friends if you're a guy and no more guy friends if you're a girl in our generation.
But sometimes, because of this technology, there are chances that old flames will rekindle. It just need one text, or in our generation, one WhatsApp message to change everything. For some people, they are afraid that their spouses will find out that they are in touch with their friends of the opposite gender, even though it was just normal conversation. But when their spouses realised it, they will automatically think of the other way, that is there is something more than just normal conversation. Then they argue. Then they tell their friends of the other gender about the argument. Then they realised that the friends of the opposite gender are better than their spouses. Then they divorce. Then they remarried. Then they live happily ever after. The end.
NOT.
Sometimes people go a bit too far when it comes to connecting with friends of the other gender and by doing so indirectly distracted your focus on your spouse. There is no focus anymore. It pulls you away from focusing on loving your spouse wholeheartedly.
You can say that it's getting harder to find true love in our generation because too often we get too carried away with our emotions and forgot our priorities.
Don't get married just because you want to, or the society pushes you to, or because you no choice. Get married because you love each other.
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” - Genesis 1:27-28 -
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