Bitterness

Few days ago, I had the chance to listen to the online radio where the topic is "Is it okay to not have any friends at all?".

So a girl called up and said that she has no friends and she lives perfectly well with that.

The DJ felt weird and asked the girl whether she doesn't feel that it's a problem to not have any friends at all, and the girl asked her back what's the problem with living alone?

She also stated that she just broke up with her bf of one month and the question that appeared in my head was: If she doesn't like to make friends or have any friends, how did she get a bf in the first place?

But the DJ didn't ask her this question so I don't know the answer.

The DJ also kept saying that the problem why the girl doesn't feel that she has problem with living alone is because she doesn't feel that it's a problem. To the girl, it's alright to go to work alone, does her work alone and come back alone. Not sure whether she lives with her family, but yeah, she asked why is it necessary to have friends? She has no problem being in her own world and doesn't feel the need to have friends, who might cause trouble in her life, I assume.

At the end the girl hanged up the call because she felt that there's no point in continue talking to the DJ, and called back later to shoot the DJ back because she felt that she has been insulted. The argument on air continue and this time the DJ couldn't take it anymore and hung up instead.


If you say that friends are not important in our lives, I'll definitely object to it but if you say let's add the whole world in FB so that we can gain more friends, that I'll object to it too.

As you all know, as we grow older, we only keep our close ones to ourselves and we might end up having that few friends compare to when we were younger where we have lots of friends.

The main reason why this girl thinks that it's okay to live alone is probably because she experienced betrayal before and she doesn't want to have any friends anymore. Most importantly, she survives without friends.

I strongly believe in one thing: that our behaviour is influenced by our past experiences. For example, some people don't get acknowledged when they are helpful but in return they were back-stabbed, so they stopped being the nice people. Some people are so pessimistic in a certain thing, perhaps in relationships, because they endured numerous hurt before.

Some people find it hard to trust others, and some, find it hard to speak the truth.

It's the fear that stopped them from connecting with people.

But.. let's just keep an open heart, shall we? :) 

One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. - Proverbs 18:24 -